The Gentle Art of Self-Allowing

There is a broad base of therapeutic literature focusing on self-regulation, or the ability to manage and re-direct one’s emotions in a healthy way.  When individuals act out in unhealthy ways due to a lack of control over their emotions, this is called dysregulation. Most people would agree that a high level of self-control isContinue reading “The Gentle Art of Self-Allowing”

Why Trauma Makes Resting So Difficult

Photo by Luis Villasmil on Unsplash I have one memory of rest that sticks out for me. It happened a month or so ago, in my apartment. I was sitting at my sewing machine, stitching a small, padded pouch for my friend’s rosary. Time softened and melted away, and I was blissfully unaware of anythingContinue reading “Why Trauma Makes Resting So Difficult”

Reclaiming Your Sense of Self After Codependency

Codependency can develop for many reasons: an addiction or chronic illness in the family, an attachment disorder from past trauma, or having lived in a dysfunctional environment, among others. Codependency is even transmittable, passing down from parent to child, and from partner to partner. Mental Health America defines codependency as an “emotional and behavioural conditionContinue reading “Reclaiming Your Sense of Self After Codependency”

What to Do When You Struggle With Neediness

We sometimes get to a place where we need help. Depending on how we grew up, we can react to this place in several different ways. Those who had a secure, trusting attachment to a parental figure are more likely to feel safe asking for help as adults. If you developed a more avoidant attachmentContinue reading “What to Do When You Struggle With Neediness”

How to Get Out of Bed When You’re Depressed

Not being able to get out of bed or off the couch sucks. When a depressive episode hits, it can glue us to a horizontal surface and cancel out any energy we might have had to fight back. Fortunately, we still can fight back. We are not helpless. Below is a trick I discovered thatContinue reading “How to Get Out of Bed When You’re Depressed”